For all my single ladies, who are experiencing this crazy dating season in their life right now. Today’s post is for you! I don’t know about you but I can feel overwhelmed and discouraged by today’s dating scene. Too many apps, too many texts and not enough conversations over the phone, too many choices, too many distractions, and when there is conversation it can be such surface level conversations. It all seems a little too fast pace for an old-fashioned slow pace kind of girl like me. But most of all it can leave me feeling like I am just another number in a huge database of choices.

I wanted to write this post to remind myself and all my fellow single lady friends that this is the complete opposite of the truth!!  Don’t believe the hype!! The truth is you are a once in a lifetime type of women.  You are so worthy of the best!  You are worthy of having multiple men lining up at your doorstep asking to spend time with you. The truth is if we don’t know our worth, how can anybody else see it in us?

Watch this video for words of encouragement.

I love the lyrics of this song!  I know the lyrics might be a little confusing. To clear up any confusion, think of the person singing this song as your number fan singing to you. With all the rejection and awkwardness of dating it can often leave me feeling alone and discouraged that I will never find anyone who will see and know my greatness.   I encourage you to listen to the song a second time. This time let the words wash over you! When I listen to the words of this song, it is a reminder that I am beautiful because of who I am and not because of what I look like on the exterior, not because I have an education or don’t have an education, not because I make a lot of money  or make a little amount of money, or the fact that I have x amount of people wanting to date or not date me. What makes me beautiful is my story both the good and the bad.  I often skip right past the bad parts of my past when getting to know someone for a future potential relationship. I do so for the fear of being judged and/or rejected. The truth is the bad choices that I have made in the past were a good thing and I shouldn’t be ashamed of it.  I have learned from the consequences that came from bad choices and these experiences have built me into the stronger and smarter women I am today.

When I watch this video, I can see the stripper represents my past of bad choices.  Maybe for you it was something you did that you are ashamed of or perhaps its a lie someone told you that you may still be believing.  Maybe someone told you that you weren’t pretty enough or smart enough or skinny enough. Fill in the blank, ” You are not _____ enough.”  It’s been my experience that when I hold  on to shame or a negative belief about myself (that is clearly not true), I often allow other people’s perception of me  to become my reality.  Kind of like how the ladies from the dance studio where looking at the leading lady of the video like she wasn’t good enough or didn’t fit in.  The truth is hurting people hurt people and for me to believe a lie someone told me because they were broken is the farthest thing from the truth or reality.

I believe God created us to be our own unique selfs and that is what makes each one of us beautiful. It’s not a competition, because there is no other girl like you.  Your individuality is your beauty.  Just like the beautiful dance of this ballerina, no one could deny her abilities and beauty.  The judges couldn’t take their eyes off her!

I hope today’s post encourages you to confidently walk in who you are!  No need to compare yourself to anyone else, because there is only one of you.  Everyone else is already taken. I believe being comfortable in your own skin is the only way your destiny can come to pass.  You recieve what you put out there.  Come on ladies let’s get past projecting the wrong perceptions of ourselves that this dating scene can often leave us believing.  Let’s stand up, put on our confidence outfits and take the stage. Our guy is waiting for us to show up and shine!!

Love in abundance,

Jamie

I got the chance to meet Mali last week when he performed here in Chicago. He is the most sweetest and humble man. He has such a presence! And yes ladies he is single.. LOL!! Check out his music at www.malimusicofficial.com.