The Vanity Room

October 14, 2020

Please Don’t Stop Calling Me Beautiful!!!


The truth about God’s definition of beauty is that it is not something you can attain in a title, by having the right number on a scale, by having that perfect relationship, the perfect skin or hair, or when you arrived at the current hottest vacation spot.  Our world teaches us that when we attain these things then we will be beautiful. I mean just look at Instagram, it screams to us what it thinks beauty is and tries to influence us into thinking that we need to be beautiful like them.


My Unique beauty you are already beautiful!  It is there within you, you can’t see it because you have the wrong perspective.  Your perspective is being formulated by what your family, friends, culture, and peers are impressing upon you. We have to be very careful that we don’t let anyone other than God define the word beauty to us. 


I have even heard people say things like “Stop calling me beautiful” or “I will not call my daughter beautiful because I don’t want her to be vain.” NO, NO, NO,  we were never designed to not be beautiful.  It screams at my heart when I hear these things because I know the deep pain caused by never being told and knowing I was beautiful.


Beauty is not external. Beauty is not an ego. If you look at your Groom’s beauty, you will soon recognize that He did not possess external perfection.  His very own people didn’t recognize him as their king because He didn’t look like they expected him to look. 


Why would you entrust your beauty to the definition that the world tells you?


Why wouldn’t you listen to your groom speaking so softly into your ear telling you how beautiful you truly are?


Song of Solomon 4


1 Listen, my dearest darling,

you are so beautiful—you are beauty itself to me!

Your eyes glisten with love,

like gentle doves behind your veil.

What devotion I see each time I gaze upon you.

You are like a sacrifice ready to be offered.[a]

When I look at you,

I see how you have taken my fruit and tasted my word.

Your life has become clean and pure,

like a lamb washed and newly shorn.

You now show grace and balance with truth on display.

Your lips are as lovely as Rahab’s scarlet ribbon,[b]

speaking mercy, speaking grace.

The words of your mouth are as refreshing as an oasis.

What pleasure you bring to me!

I see your blushing cheeks

opened like the halves of a pomegranate,[c]

showing through your veil of tender meekness.

When I look at you,

I see your inner strength, so stately and strong.

You are as secure as David’s fortress.

Your virtues and grace cause a thousand famous soldiers

to surrender to your beauty.

Your pure faith and love rest over your heart

as you nurture those who are yet infants.


7 Every part of you is so beautiful, my darling.

Perfect is your beauty, without flaw within.


Your groom is not complimenting how your makeup looks, your outfit looks, or your jewelry.  He is speaking to the beauty that He sees radiating from your heart.

In Song of Solomon, He dresses up a poor shepherd girl in the finest linens and jewelry not because she isn’t beautiful and needs it.  He upgrades her external to match her internal because she already had beauty from within. She believed she wasn’t beautiful because she was poor and not rich enough to wear fine linens.  Her groom gave her the fine linens and jewelry bc they represented the beauty she already radiates.  That is why external items can never give you beauty, you can’t gain what you don’t already see inside of you. It is the reason why we all love the Cinderella story so much!!! Cinderella was the poor shepherdess who was mistreated by her closest family members, yet she still sang a beautiful song while doing her chores and dreamed big.  Her beautiful heart and spirit are what the Prince saw in her from across a crowded room.


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